By Donna Hanks on 25th October 2017

Who Are You?

By Donna Hanks

Do you know who you are?

When you have a strong definition of yourself, then you love, accept and respect yourself, and you feel secure.

I believe that when you know who you are, you don’t need anyone else to validate your worth.

You decide your worth, and you decide who you are.

Ask yourself, “How do you feel about you?”

If you feel good about yourself, and show respect for others, then I am sure you are happy.

If you do not feel good about yourself and your relationships, then I believe it is time to clearly define yourself and set your standards.

You will know when you have done this, as it is a feeling of contentment, peace, of knowing.

I believe that when you truly know who you are, that is when you feel happy and can create what you want.

I know this, as when I have clearly defined what I wanted, I have easily attracted the right people and feelings, and when I have not known what I wanted, I have experienced discontentment.

If you are unsure of yourself, confused, or don’t know what you have to offer, you will attract people and situations that won’t feel right.  They will not fit, as you are out of alignment, energetically.

We meet people, we have relationships, life experiences, and then we change, or other people change, and then we are no longer in alignment with that person or situation.

Ultimately, you attract people and situations that match your beliefs about yourself, at that time.

When you have a strong sense of self, you will attract the right people and situations that match your vibe.

You will always attract, based on how you feel.

Sometimes a change in circumstances will cause us to question our identity - for example, after a personal crisis, when children leave home, or after a divorce or separation.

To find yourself, ask for guidance.

When I was out of balance, I asked for help and I then drew on all the knowledge I already had, to create a series of events that led to me being myself, and feeling very happy.  I have been able to sustain this feeling of happiness.

To know who you are, finish the sentence, “I am…”

Who do you want to proudly say you are?

You don’t need to say this out loud to anyone else, just know it yourself.

Your definition of yourself can include your personality, habits, beliefs, priorities, and ultimately how you want to live your life.

Part of defining yourself is knowing your values and standards, and living up to them.

If there is something you want to change, if you know you need to improve, make the decision to do so now.

In my career, I want to love what I do and do it with passion.

In my personal relationships, I also want passion, and other essential qualities. There are deal-breakers. There are no shortcuts.  I want mutual and pure admiration, trust, respect and unconditional love with the people I share my life with. I’m not accepting less than that, and I urge you not to either.

Remember, you have options.

If you don’t enjoy your career, you have options.

If you are not fulfilled in your relationships, you have options.

Ultimately, the employer, business partner, lover or friend is better off knowing if you are not satisfied, and to let you go and accept this.

If someone leaves you, let them leave.

You can then move on to better people and situations.

We are constantly experiencing; if we don’t like a condition or a feeling, we have the power to let it go.

Knowing what you don’t want also brings you closer to creating what you do want, but remember not to give too much attention to what you don’t want.

Remove yourself from unwanted situations, and move towards what you want, and what feels right.

Use your feelings as your gauge – if it feels good, do it – this is pure wisdom.

Ten years ago, I asked a very wise friend of mine, ‘What is your sagest advice?

He responded with, ‘Know thyself’.

Another close friend asked me last year, ‘How do I be content?’

I was flattered that he thought I knew the answer to this question. I wasn’t sure of the answer at the time.  I told him that I’d give it some thought and get back to him when I knew the answer.

I now know the answer; ‘Know who you are.’

To be continued…